If you are in the early stages of dating a guy, you likely are trying to figure out as many things as possible about him. Even as you learn more and more on each date with him, there are always more questions you need answered.
Many answers to your questions will show themselves during the first night you are at his place. You will see how he decorates, how he cooks, what kinds of food he buys, how he takes care of his yard, how his house smells, etc. One of the most important things to figure out is if your new boyfriend is a slob. Naturally, the first places you will look for signs of “SLOBNESS” will be in his bathroom and his kitchen. Chances are, even if the guy is a slob, he will likely use this night as one of the rare nights he puts the effort in cleaning both of these rooms as diligently as possible, so you may not get your TRUE answer to his “SLOBNESS METER” by looking over these rooms. Obviously, if the bathroom and kitchen ARE MESSY on your first visit, then this guy has no shame at all and you probably will not be coming over for a second visit. So, if he took a rare moment to finally clean his bathroom and kitchen to impress you, then where do you look? You could find signs of slobness in the bedroom closet, or even under the bed, but by the time you make it to the bedroom, you might not be as concerned about those things. Red wine and passion could be taking over the mood at that point! So, what are other options to verify his slobness before you even think about going to his bedroom? Easy answer! The MICROWAVE!! It would be extremely hard to assume that a very neat and tidy guy would have a microwave that looked like it had 30 different meals blow up in it at the same time. It would also be extremely hard to assume that a slob would have a squeaky-clean microwave without even a crumb or an old spec of spaghetti sauce leftovers stuck in the corner. Have you ever met a slob with a clean microwave? Your new boyfriend is so concerned about cleaning his bathroom, kitchen, and bedroom (and maybe even vacuuming and sweeping floors) before your arrival, he won’t even remember to clean out his microwave. It will be one of the last things on his mind. So, when he exits the kitchen to use the restroom, just take a moment to have a quick peek inside that microwave. Do so with caution, though! The results could be frightening! OR, the results could be pleasantly surprising! What will it be? Is your new man a Neat Freak? Or is he a SLOB?! Best of luck!
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In this crazy world of dating and relationships, there are many questions that we strive to find an answer for. One of those questions, particularly for men, is if the woman is interested in them during a first date. Unfortunately, we will sometimes leave a date feeling excited, only to see our texts or calls get ignored the day after, and ignored again the day after that.
The obvious sign of interest is a goodnight kiss to end the date, but if the kiss is not there, how can we verify her interest level? There are many strategies that you can choose to utilize, but one strategy that you may have not thought about involves the parking lot. More specifically, the exact location of where you park. The location of your parking spot could significantly ease your confusion. When you arrive at the agreed upon location, possibly a restaurant, bar, or coffee shop, you are likely going to find the closest parking spot available. Don’t do this! Instead, drive to the very end of the parking lot to find your parking space. Do you see a parking spot that is almost 200 yards from the restaurant? Perfect! Take that spot! As you are parking your car in another zip code, your date is likely parking in much closer proximity to the restaurant. This will work out in your favor if she is interested in you. So, fast forward to the end of your date. You paid the bill and now you are both exiting the restaurant together. You feel like everything went well and you are already thinking about a second date with her, but you are very uncertain about what she is thinking. Does she want to see you again? Or does she want to quickly drive home and immediately block you from viewing her online dating profile ever again? You may figure the answer to this question as you are standing outside the restaurant. Tell her that you are glad you parked far away because you need to go for a long walk to burn off those calories from all that food (or drinks) that you had. In response, she will likely say something like “You parked far away? Where is your car??” You then advise her that your car is parked several hundred yards away from the restaurant. The woman, who most likely is parked MUCH closer, will then clear up your confusion about her interest level. If she is not interested in you, she will give you a light/fake chuckle and wish you the best of luck on your long walk to your car. If she IS interested, there is a very high chance she will say something like “Oh my gosh, you parked way over there? Here, let me give you a ride to your car!” Listen, if this woman has no interest in seeing you again, then there is no chance in hell that she is going to invite you inside her car! She would be making you walk with no hesitation! The only possible exception to this assumption would be if there was inclement weather and she didn’t want you to get soaked regardless of her interest in dating you. If you are invited inside her car, you have done well, sir! An added bonus to this strategy is that you two will be alone in her car, which gives you more privacy for an intimate kiss to end the night without having to worry about people watching you and/or walking by you. Just don’t be too pushy by attempting to go back to your high school days of heaving groping in your friend’s old Chevrolet Impala. She has trusted you to be alone inside her car on the first day of meeting you, so be respectful in your actions and make her feel as safe as possible! Try this strategy out! If the strategy works, then you get a free ride from a woman who likely wants to see you again. If it does not work, then you get some good exercise to end the evening! Just don’t park so far away that you forget where your car is! First off, there is a very simple answer to this question. You determine the answer to this question by attempting to kiss the woman at the end of the date and see if she kisses you back or backs away! It should really be that simple, shouldn’t it? After all, if she really has no interest in you, what do you have to lose by trying to sneak an innocent kiss? You weren’t getting a second date, regardless, so pucker up and dive in, but do it respectfully, of course!
On the flip side, if she DOES have a strong interest in seeing you again, then she more than likely WANTS you to kiss her! So, unless you have tremendously bad breath and are the worst and sloppiest kisser on this planet, then an attempted kiss will not ruin your chances of seeing her again. Chances are, the woman already made up her mind about wanting to see you again before you even left the restaurant. Despite the above mentioned data, many men are still hesitant to just “go for it” at the end of the date when it comes to a first kiss. Many of us want some kind of assurance that we are not about to make a fool of ourselves or damage our ego or self-confidence. Well, if that’s the case, then here is a nearly fail-proof strategy: When the date is over, DO NOT say goodbye to her near the entrance of the restaurant/bar. You must make an effort to walk her to her car. If you say goodbye to her in front of the building’s entrance while other patrons walk by you, then the comfort level and motivation to kiss each other with an audience will likely not be high. As long as she allows it, you need to walk her to her car. The moment of truth comes when you both arrive at her car. Want to know if she wants you to kiss her? Ok, then! What does she do when she reaches her vehicle? Does she give you a quick “Had a good time tonight” as she gradually opens the driver’s side door? Or does she stand by her car while continuing a conversation with you, with no visible attempts to immediately open her car door? If she has no interest in a second date, then she will waste no time in entering the vehicle and driving off. If she stands by the car for several minutes and continues to talk to you, then don’t be a fool! She is basically telling you that she wants a kiss before she leaves! I believe in the “7-minute rule” for parking lots. If she stands there with you for several minutes without showing any interest in getting inside her car, then you MUST go for a kiss!! If you don’t, she may think you are a bit of coward, which could actually cause her to change her mind about seeing you again. She may even think you are not interested in her. It is possible that she is thinking you are being a respectful gentleman by not attempting to kiss her right away, in which case she will still likely see you again. But why should you confuse yourself? Why should you confuse her? Just kiss the girl, man! |
AuthorBrian Munger has been a self-employed writer for 14+ years. He is the owner and head writer of a professional resume writing service, Resume Phenom LLC (www.resumephenom.com), which has been in operation since 2011. When not writing resumes, Munger enjoys writing blogs and articles on many different topics, including sports, dating, money, health, kids, politics, food, marriage, divorces, and so many other things! Archives
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